Relationships; Sex, Love & War

We create our own loneliness…

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I see all these posts from people about how much they’re unhappy, or how they wish they could just be happy again. In truth these people are just lonely, and sad about it, and feel the need to let the world know they’re not happy. By no means am I trying to kick a person while they’re down. That’s not the kind of person I am. I want to inspire you, to be a better you. Instead of thinking about why you cannot find Mr. or Miss Right, think about being Mr. or Miss Right for yourself. Be the person you want to attract and have in your life. If you think I am crazy cause all you are seeing in your mind is the physical being of whom your Mr. or Miss Right may be, then you are not ready for a relationship at all. A persons physical look does not determine their personality. Besides, in time all beauty succumbs to age, and all fads are destined to fall, be mindful and remember that always. If you walk around thinking you’re alone all the time: then who are your friends and family to you? Being single, and being alone are not the same thing, remember that. I am a very happy person, and I have been single for over 7 years and by far do I think of myself as alone.

What you sew, so shall you reap. The Love you pass over today, is the Love that passes you by tomorrow and the next. So no more bitching about being single, no more whining about not finding someone to Love you. The truth is that you are picky and shallow. You know this to be true. If you want someone to Love you, you need to learn to love yourself, not just in theory, but unconditionally (did you see the big ‘L’? That means the real deal, more so than you love pizza or beer. ) Be the perfect partner to yourself first and others will see that you take care of yourself. In the long run this will attract people to you; because they will want you to care for them just as much as you care for yourself. On the upside you may find that you enjoy being single, and just casually date every now and then.

Not everyone wants to be single, but when the opportunity for Love or relationship makes itself known to you, you pull out a list of prerequisites and requirements. And you do this to your friends as well… don’t deny it. So now you know that you are the reason you are single.

~Here’s my advise; break free from your shallow attractions. The guy that’s not 100% your dream guy may one day lead you to the one that is. Plus you may find along the way that this guy was everything you needed after all. So keep in mind your needs will always out weigh your wants in the end, but your wants will always overshadow your needs in the beginning.

~Love is not easy for everyone, in fact those that have a hard time trying to find a meaningful fulfilling Love seem to look the most for it in the worst places. Those that find simple love don’t really look for it, and it kind of just falls in their lap, and they often take it for granted.

~Remember: Only fools try to harvest on barren ground. As a fool will try to find love where love can’t be found.

 

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Gasp! Put that thing away…

And yes, I am talking about your phone.

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The rudeness is getting out of hand, and my filter, as you all know is non-existent. So there I find myself with my good-Judy sister Eden, sitting with the children after a very fine show about to order beverages at a Denny’s at Myrtle Beach. When I notice that the young man sitting eye-to-eye across from me is steady tap-tap-tapping away on Grindr with some local ‘trade’. I had to ask him… “Young man is our company not good enough for you, please put your phone away? Mine has not left my pocket since I sat down.”  He proceeds to try and give an array excuses (to which I ignore and order my hot tea and meal, to the very bright and polite server), and with the support of the other children we find he was the only one on the phone at the table… although, the others had theirs on the table, or at hand. He did put his phone away without argument. Needless to say we all had a grand time after.

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Your phone is your business, and yes, you may pay that bill and can use it freely. Have you thought that when you’re spending time with your friends and family, you could leave it alone for that time? Would you rather be somewhere else texting other people or sitting alone with your phone on the internet?

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Because if you’re talking to me, and you stop to take a text, and it goes on for more than three to five minutes, I’m just going to walk away from you. Because apparently whatever conversation we were having was not that important to you. If you get mad at me for doing so, then it’s you that need to re-think your priorities. The people right in front of you should come first.

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You have a cell phone as a convenience and a luxury; it has replaced your calculator, address book, camera, flashlight, alarm clock, calendar, media player, road map, note pad, and many more functions. Would you like it to replace your friends as well? You have ‘Siri’, and ‘Okay Google’ to talk to all day.

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Just put your phone away for a while when you are with others… you can answer that text later, and listen to the voicemail after your visit. Besides, if all you want to do is text with others anyway, then just stay at home and do just that.

 

When a new Star Shines do the local Stars Dim?

What’s in a name? I guess that depends on the name, am I right? When it comes to Drag and the performance industry a name could make or break you. Even deeper still into the world of pantomime entertainment, or even simply calling it ‘drag’; may you be male or female, queen or king, impersonator or not, what really makes a person in this industry truly famous; is face time… you know – publicity.

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How does one performer become better known than any other? Before the days of RuPaul’s Drag-Race, the performer really had to do all the work themselves. Sometimes it started with a talent show at a night club to get their face seen for the first time. A lot of the times a talent show was the way for the Show-Director of a Night Club to get fresh entertainment for the weekends. The winner would get a small cash prize and a cameo spot in one of the upcoming weekend show nights. From there, they were pretty much on their own, unless they had a ‘House’ to help them out. Another way new up and coming performers could get a start would be to enter a pageant. There they can get tips and tricks of all kinds, but costs a bit more, as gowns, hair, jewelry, and talent costuming can get expensive. But in this way they can get constructive criticism from the panel of those chosen to judge the pageant, as well as, should they win, a hefty cash prize package, and a crown. Nowadays they have New Comer Pageants, these are for entertainers new to the scene that have never done a pageant before, going up against others just like them, there was nothing like this 10-20 years ago. Even still, when all is said and done, it was still left to the performers themselves to find venues to work at. Most of the time if a bar/night club hosted a drag show; they had someone there to ‘book’ entertainment. This person was call a ‘Show Director’, if the venue cared enough they would post in the paper, or on flyers when to call for bookings. Then the Entertainers, needing money, or just wanting to get out there, would call, and negotiate a booking fee. If you pulled a good crowd, or you were really good that night, the Show Director may try to do more bookings for that month, or season. Then the next thing you know, as an Entertainer, you have a fan following and you know that when you step out on any stage and look out into the club it’s going to be to a packed house, or as a Pageantess, you instill unease in the other contestants because you are high on your game, and they know when they hear your name, you mean business when you want a crown. Can you be both, yes, but it’s hard work to do both, some cannot swing it, while others can.

So this brings me to the real meat of this matter; Where I feel the attention is going in the eyes of what is drag, and what is entertainment, and how I feel about those that have played their respective role in RPDR. Many will call me out on this, but I really don’t care. I know I am gonna get the stink eyes, go-to-hell-looks, the “And just who are you…?” Again, I am un-bothered. Yea, I could have devoted time and money into my art-form… developed my drag character, wardrobe collection, and stage skills, and maybe even won a crown or two. I choose a different path, which was not drag; I focused on my career skills. I played in drag from time to time, and for a short while I felt I would even pick it up as a part time gig. As we all know real life comes first. So don’t judge me on that. I have been around long enough when I’ve seen things that make no sense at all.

Here is what I mean…

Say you have Queens A. B. C. & D. they are all holding big name titles, and they are very well known, great entertainers, even the local entertainers know who they are. Their booking fee is (arbitrarily speaking) $800.00, plus air fare (business class), and hotel stay (something nice, where they won’t be scared to shower). Roughly to book them individually $1,000.00- that’s not bad at all. The club would be full, and most of the local entertainers may even supplement your show, just to share the stage with them as an experience.

On the other hand a Queen from RPDR is a brand name now, and all former titles they may have won mean nothing to them as their focus is on pushing the RPDR brand as well as their own. They are seen by millions on T.V. As such their booking fee will reflect that (arbitrarily speaking) that fee is going to be from $1,500-$2,000 or higher, plus air fare (first class), and hotel stay (usually a suite, they will tell you what hotel to put them into) Total all that up and you can put a down payment on a new car, buy some new home appliances, or go to college and pay some loans.

These days when a queen or entertainer gets to the point they are deemed a star, or famous, they have a booking agent. They don’t call bars and clubs anymore; they may not even do pageants any longer.

What makes a RPDR Queen any different from any experienced Queen that has been doing pageants for longer than most of them that has been doing Drag? This is a very hard Question that I posed. I did it for a reason. That is because RPDR is nothing more than a pageant itself disguised in reality television. Interview is the video you send in, but think of Video as a preliminary, and the show itself is the final pageant. You have Questions, outfits, gowns, even talent skits that have to be preformed. Even still they keep cutting it down and you do it all over again. I have a friend that owns a preliminary state level pageant to one of the top 4 well known national pageants in the nation. In the beginning he would run this state level pageant for 5 days, and he had up to 20 contestants at one time, compared to RPDR, he was an amateur.

What would happen to RPDR if Miss Gay America started to film and broadcast on national television, or Miss Gay USofA, The E.O.Y system, or the Continental system? It’s all about publicity right, marketing, and getting your brand out there.

Don’t think I’m putting these RPDR gals down. I know that they had to have worked hard, while they were on the show, but that was the last time they worked that hard… now they have it easy… they don’t have to work as hard as they had to before. How are they giving back to the LGBTQ community that helped get them their start before RPDR? I can tell you that many of the highly recognized names in the entertainment industry of drag that have never made it to TV, or even won a crown, they give back, and it is not about the money for them.

 

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Broken Pride – Broken Community

Zoi’s Words of Wisdom… From the Back Pew…

 
“If to be gay is not a choice, and acting “gay” is. So then why do so many gay men say that they are straight acting. Are these gay men ashamed that they are gay? Do they not want to be associated with other gay people? I see that these gay men are looking to date gay men that are also straight acting. Seems very much an oxymoron if you give it any thought.”

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~THE LIBRARY IS NOW OPEN~

Now for the Read, my favorite part.

Ok… so all you gay men out there that claim to be ‘straight acting’ and looking for other gay men, that are also ‘straight acting’, get over yourselves. So you think that you are un-clockable as a fag… WRONG. There is always something that gives you away. (It’s called a “tell” in Poker, and once the other players know your “tell” you will not win another hand in that game.) Plus you still have sex with men. To ACT straight, would mean that you would have to live your life as a straight man… and act the part. (That would mean, to have a girl-friend, or wife, and only be with the opposite sex. Lying to them everyday, cause on the inside you would really want to be with a man cause you are just ‘acting’ like a straight man remember) Gay men cannot do this, we’re gay, we like men. Being in the closet still and lying about your sexuality to self-protect is not the same thing as a self proclaimed out and proud gay man that claims to be ‘straight acting’. Because they don’t want to be seen as a stereotypical homosexual, or other derogatory terms used to describe a gay man that can be outed by their mannerisms, clothing choices, speech pattern, or hair style. Now I have never seen a Lesbian look for straight acting Lesbians… that even sounds wrong to me. Most out and proud gay females that I know, Lesbians; even if they are single, don’t hide behind their gender forms. They explode from them. The same can be said about Drag Queens. That’s why Dykes and Queens make the best of friend, they have more in common… they have a deeper understanding of what it is like to be looked at funny when you are not the media normal for the modern male and female walking down the street.

Your biggest enemy in finding love, or Mr. Perfect is in your hand… or pocket. It’s your phone. I bet you have 3 or more applications for finding dates in your area. Have you used it to really go on a date, or just hook up? Just hooking up huh? Don’t lie to yourself, it’s been ages since you’ve been on a real date. you will know when you go on a real date, cause when you do, you will not even touch your phone, even if it rings, pings, buzzes, and bleeps. Tell me I’m wrong…

Men that are still on the Down Low or DL… leave them alone. You don’t need trash like that in your life. Men like this are more than likely cheating on their girl-friend, or wife. Sometimes these are men that discovered they were bisexual, but decided to hide it, or try to repress it. We all know the truth, desire makes you weak, and just because you repress a feeling does not make it go away. Sexuality is apart of you; for example you can dye your blonde hair brown… it isn’t permanent, the roots will start to show eventually.

~THE LIBRARY IS NOW CLOSED~

Be true to yourself, Be true to your family, be true to your friends, and be true to strangers… We like to say “it’s not nice to judge others”… but lets face it, we do it anyway… so better to be honest and not get caught up in a lie.

Don’t forget to put your phone down a few times a day and really look at the world around you again. Go to the park (not to cruise) leave it in the console, and go for a walk… and breath a little.

We the LGBTQ(alphabet-soup) community are really all we have for each other… there are those that make claim as friends and allies, but when it comes down to the line… we need to have each others back first, then fall on to our Allies second.

A great Entertainer and great friend Coti Collins would say this at every show when I saw them preform, and these words stick with me and resonate with me, “Be kind to one another.”

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Dear Sovereign State and lovely country of China,

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I did not vote for the man know as – donald j. trump. I never wanted him anywhere near our governing offices as I fear it would be detrimental to our country. I was also against our outdated Electoral System as it is no longer a means to validate a fair election. I humbly ask if you wish to teach that man a lesson, which I feel if he believes he is able to do the job, then a lesson he must learn. Please keep in mind and heart that there are many of us here in the U.S. that wish no ill will between our countries. That if he cannot do the job, whatever lesson you desire to teach, does not in turn, hurt or even kill many of us, because of his lack of duty and responsibility. I enjoy many of the things that the people of China has given the human race, from tea, spice, and technology. I do hope one day to visit your great nation, if our soon to be president does not mar things to terribly.

 

Thank You,

Zoi M.

The T is Hot… but it’s NOT new

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This kinda life, can be such… a DRAG

     Being a Drag Queen is not for everyone… though today, as it seems, almost anyone can be a Drag Queen… It doesn’t mean that you should be. With YouTube makeup tutorials, how to build a wig sip-its, D.I.Y. costume sewing technique videos… the list go’s on… As I said, anyone, and nearly everyone can be a Drag Queen; With no hassles involved, albeit, as long as they have the coins to BUY all the pretty things they desire.

   The Golden Age Of Drag is dead, it started dying out in the late 1980’s, and by the end of the 1990’s the Glamour was fading into fad, and soon it became cold, heartless, and dead. No real talent anymore… instead you have copies of copies… nothing original. And if by chance someone is original, they are quickly changed, made to conform, and fit the mold of what is the fad and fancy. Every new Drag Queen out there wants a crown, but not one of them is willing to put forth the hard work, time, money, or learn what real drag is all about and it’s roots, to really know how to win. All pageant talents today are high energy solo dance numbers…

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~look at how many hot buff guys I can have on stage with me in skimpy underwear…

or…

~watch my backup dancers buck the house down while I look pretty sitting on this throne…

or…

~me, looking pretty and fabulous, lying on the floor…

or…

~me looking all hot and sickening being carried by hot buff guys in skimpy underwear. It really is becoming all the same.

   Little do these kids know that being a Drag Queen is a lonely life. Not all Drag performers have the luxury of having a relationship, or even a chance at one. This whole Masc 4 Masc only bull-sh!t, and I only date guys that are straight acting bull-sh!t… Come off it Mary… If he’s acting like he’s straight he’s lying.

   Because every good gay guy knows – If you are a man and you have sex with other men, you are not acting like a Straight man; because Straight men DO NOT have sex with other men. For real, ask any heterosexual man how many men he has sex with, and how often… I’m sure you will be shocked.

   Drag Queens are looked down upon in our own LGBTQ community, and it is sad to even say or think that… considering what the Drag community has done for the LGBTQ world wide standard, starting with Stonewall Inn and going from there up into today. But now that RuPaul has re-branded the Queen, everyone wants in on that ride… It kind of makes me happy and mad all at the same time. Because even if someone can make it big in the Drag Field and lifestyle, they will still be seen as second or third class by many, in our own community…

   The LGBTQ community is fractured; drag is broken, the gays act like they are too good for anything, or they just don’t care or they’re bored with everything, the lesbians are going political (though not a bad thing) some, in the wrong directions… The bisexuals are seeming to go backwards… like in the closets again… Trans-lives are being cut short, to soon… and the Queer movement is snagging. Something has got to give, or we are going to give out. We need to pull together or we risk falling apart.

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Nothing in The United States of America is free, not even our basic human rights. From the day we are born, we are given a name from our parents and a Social Security number from our country.

It’s with that number that our country tracks every move we make. When you start school, graduate, begin work, buy a car, a house, and land property. With that same number they will track and count every cent you earn, then tax it.

We begin with debt, and die with it. There will be few people in The Great USofA that make a grand fortune and live a life of luxury and relaxation. The other side of that coin is not as pretty; for there will be thousands and thousands more that will work till they drop dead, spending hard earned money they don’t have, just to survive from day to day.

Even though The US is not considered a poor country, it is lacking much. The people are blind and deaf by choice; they see and hear only what they want to, even it means what they’re doing is going to hurt them in the future.

Pop culture and mainstream media are the smoke and mirror tricks used to keep you from seeing what is really going on in the world around you, even in your own country. Keep this to heart… there’s more to it than you can fathom.

Regardless of how each individual feels as far as Right vs. Wrong… there is so much more that is going on beyond that. There is – Good vs. Bad… and most importantly – Healthy vs. Toxic.

What are you missing when you watch the news?

What is not being said?

What are you being spoon fed into believing to begin with?

How much truth is in that news report?

Where is the funding that pays for that News Station coming from?

How long are you going to let this go on?

WE THE PEOPLE are MANY

They are few…

Think about that…

 

 

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Relationships; Sex, Love & War – II

Perplexing Polyamory

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Can it work?

Yes it can; as with all relationships, it requires communication. If not more so because more people are involved.

Polygamy is not a new concept… It has been around for thousands of years. Even in Holy texts… Kings, great leaders, and even the common man had multiple wives, though it was not said that the women had multiple husbands, I cannot see why not. It only said not to commit adultery against your spouse. So if you have more than one wife or husband, then I don’t see adultery happening.

Though having all those wives then was arranged by the families joining together, or business, or for land, or to stop war… but very rarely for love… Oh there were still children as a byproduct; it was expected after all.

Now though we’re ruled by what we think is our heart/soul. We all strive to find our true soul-mate, no matter our belief system, from Christian to Pagan; Soul-mate is the ultimate partner, handpicked by the divine powers that be. I know it sounds good, but what if you’re in love with more than one person? Does that mean you have more than one soul-mate? That’s a good question… and it really has no answer, and the answer is yes, at the same time.

How do you know if polygamy is a good dating route for you?

For starters… you try it… but you need to have other like minded people that are willing to try it with you… if not, that is called cheating or adultery if you’re married.

I know this one was a short post… but it was packed with goodies… there will be more… Don’t forget to “like” or even comment with questions… I may add your question in my next post!!

Relationships; Sex, Love & War

As I sit here and ponder about the many different topics to indulge you with, my dear reader, I cannot help but think about love, relationships, and the dynamic about what it means to be part of a relationship; may it be monogamous or polyamorous. Regardless of your status I feel the key to any successful relationship is fully functioning communication between those who agree to be in a relationship.

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Love is already a fickle thing, playing with the mind’s need to have social interaction, the body’s desires for a physical interaction, and the soul or heart‘s desire for something blended between the two. On top of that the mind is still a very young entity, if you really think about it. If you tell it something repeatedly it will keep it as fact, and then act upon that information as such. Pavlov’s bell is a wonderful example of this in action. Love isn’t blind anymore; we have social media to thank for that. Everyone already knows what they desire in a prospective partner before they even meet them. You can see that in all online dating profiles. At the same time those same profiles could be based entirely on lies as far as whom they portray. The risks of meeting a serial killer are the same percentages as they are for meeting someone in person, but then again we are living in an age of dial up delivery. It was a little over twenty years ago that pizza could be delivered to your front door in under 30 minutes; so why not a date?

There is a rising increase of online everything; the world economy is low, as is world morality. It’s a false peace, no other country actually likes one another, really…  war is going on all the time, the US can’t seem to fix their own affairs before they have to butt into someone else’s… it’s embarrassing, children are still going hungry and living in the streets, and have been since I was a child… Just ask Sally Struthers… that’s who I remember talking about starving babies. Teens are becoming parents in a world that they cannot afford to really live in. Yet we have Tindr, Grindr, eHaromony, POF, and Match… all at the touch of our fingers. So swipe right or left?

They shouldn’t even call it online dating… you’re people shopping, or shopping for consensual sex right now. It’s true. No doubt that some have had success in finding a mate in this fashion, but for others it is a never ending struggle, even in person… are they just socially awkward? I don’t think that they are at all. It’s the rest of the masses looking at the doors, and the smart-phones in their hands awaiting the arrival of “The One.”(Cue the choir of angels and holy light from above).

They’re so disillusioned on physicalities that they have no idea that a gym body is not an average body, and that 6’1” is not an average height for men, not all women need to wear make-up, and 30 years old does not equal elderly.

No matter if you are Heterosexual, Homosexual, Bisexual (where you actually date both genders), Omnisexual, Transsexual, Demisexual, or Asexual. It’s across the board, well maybe not for an asexual.  Everyone has their ‘Perfect-Partner’ in their mind… and all they are doing is watching and waiting for them to be delivered.

My little comment about Bisexuals… what do I mean by that you may be asking. I get it, not all Bisexual people are okay with everyone knowing they like doing ‘it’ with the same gendered person… but be up front about it, and know that you are messing with someone else’s emotions. How about going after other Bisexuals in the same mindset, then no one gets hurt, and you can get your same-sex kick.

We are also moving into a more “open” era as well, as in Open-Relationships… or as I like to say ‘pre-break up’ or ‘soft-poly’. Laugh it up if you will… I do often; you cannot date a person in an open-relationship. You can have sex, yes… really hardcore date…nope.

Here is what I mean;

  • They already have a person they are committed to. A person they say they love, sleep with in a communal bed, or a home that they share.

  • Things have become rocky at home, so the relationship is now ‘open’; you are in danger of becoming the rebound when things fall apart at the seams. And more than likely you will be seen as the cause of that fall by the espoused.

  • The couple both only plays as a couple, so you are only seen as a play thing… but the more you spend time with them, the more you grow fond of one or the other, or even both… but they don’t want to expand past anything beyond the bedroom.

This is just three small examples, but there are numerous scenarios. And of the three I mentioned it is the third that can be most detrimental to you, because of the ‘IF’.

That ‘IF’ is should they both decide they want to bring you into their relationship… they are no longer a duo… you make it a Triad, or in another case one of you 3 become a Hinge.

An Equal Triad is where all three persons are dating each other.

A Hinge is where person A&B is still dating, and ‘B’ is also dating ‘C’, but ‘A’ is not. ‘B’ is the Hinge in this relationship. ‘A’ can also be a Hinge as well if they were to date person D. This could go on indefinitely.

Being polyamorous is not easy, it requires an amount of work equal to the amount of individuals evolved, regardless of your gender or sexual preferences.

Being ‘Poly’ has rules and yet no rules, all at the same time, just as being in a regular monogamous relationship. It’s not for everybody, but as a wise Queen once said – “Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it!”

Even still, love is hard to find, and make work, if you do… and those blessed to have someone, or ones… take for granted their single friends at times. (I’m not saying this because I’m single myself) I have seen it with my own eyes. Being the odd one out is not comfortable all the time, this is a lonely world as it is we live in. Though some can rejoice in the happiness of their friends’ relationships, others have a hard time coping with it and hide their real feelings. It makes for awkward evenings out, or friendly get-togethers.

In closing I don’t know where I will take this thread of this blog; I may expand on it and go in on more detailed areas where I feel my ore is needed. Though I’m not ‘the end all beat all’ on the subject of love and relationships, I feel I have a unique perspective… just as any human would. I’m a people watcher, and a thinker. I just share my opinion like the rest of the world, albeit a little more fabulously.

A closer Walk with ‘He’

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Okay as a skeptic and a theologian… it does not outright say that they are gay or homosexual… but if you read the story it’s heavily hinted that David and Jonathan definitely have something going on.

~ (2 Samuel 1:26) Yes, it says that he loved him more than women… as it states their love was “special”, this was right after hearing about Saul and Jonathan’s death… so the grief, and loss is felt in that whole line dedicated to this ‘love’ that was special…

~ (1 Samuel 20:40) They did kiss each other, as well as embrace each other, and cry, more so David… as he has to leave Jonathan, because Saul (Jonathan’s father) is going to kill him (David) and Jonathan is there to warn him of this and give him time to get away.

~ (1 Samuel 18:3-4) Jonathan removes his robe, armor, sword, bow, and belt… and gives them all to David… yes while he (David) was in front of him, but this kind of behavior at this time period was not odd or deemed strange. ((Also it is in this same chapter that we find that what is shared between David and Jonathan is a very strong love bond, and seen as holy. We would call it soul-mates today.))

~ (1 Samuel 18:2) as far as the ‘He’ in question Saul is the one that “KEPT” David not Jonathan.

~ Overall I would say that David and Jonathan were not homosexual, I would say they were in love, and that this was a recounting of their love. Jonathan I believe had a wife, and David was married to one of Jonathan’s sisters before he left… This was a classic tragic love story as they do not both end up happy together. They were Bisexual at best, but love is love.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~Fun Facts~~~~~~~~~~~~~

~ David reigned in Hebron for 7.5 years , beginning from the time that Saul and Jonathan died.(2 Samuel)

~ Saul’s youngest son, Ishbosheth, reigned for the last two of those years, and died at age 42 (2 Samuel).

~ Therefore, Ishbosheth was 35 at the death of his father, Saul.

~ Jonathan was Saul’s oldest son, and there were at least three other sons. So Jonathan must have been several years older than Ishbosheth, and so he was at least 40 at the time of his death. (1 Chronicles)

~ David was 30 when he became king in Hebron which means there was at least a ten year age difference between Jonathan and David.(2 Samuel)

~ David met Jonathan when he entered Saul’s service, and that was after the battle with Goliath. (1 Samuel)

~ David was considered too young to go into battle at the time he fought Goliath and so was probably no more than 16-18 years old.(1 Samuel)

~ Therefore, Jonathan met David when David was about 16-18 and Jonathan was at least 27 and possibly even older.